Lessons learned

I've learned a few things from my exes. The following is a list of a few of those things:

1) Give your partner space when they first get home after a long day at work. You can tell them all about your day after they've had a chance to settle in. Serving them a cocktail is sometimes nice.

2) Your partner is their own person. If they find wander off at a festival or museum, as long as they tell you they are wandering off, or are in eye sight, let them have their fun.

3) If your partner walks out during an argument because they need to think, chances are, they're probably trying to keep from decking you....and you need the time to think too.

4) Your partner's friends don't have to like you, or vice versa...as long as you all mutually respect each other for this amazing person you have in common.

5) If you don't like your partners friends, all of them, it's time to think about what it is he/she See's in them...as well as what you see in your partner.

6) Taking separate vacations once in a while, okay. All of the time, not okay. It should feel like your partner wants to explore themselves, rather than escape you.

7) Asking your partner for what you want works better than whining about what you don't have.

8) A relationship that has occasional lulls in sex is okay, and normal (whatever normal means), as long as you are jumping each other's bones when you do have the energy and time.

9) Withholding information that affects your relationship from your partner is not okay.

10) One must hold space for their partners transformation and growth and continue their own process as well. Each must do their own will.

11) It's NOT all about me.